Why God Allow Us to Wait Longer Than Others?

" You don't have to find love. 
Love will find you when God know you are ready for the responsibility of commitment. He will reveal the right person for you under the right circumstances. Wait patiently.
Don't waste your time searching and wishing for someone to come into your life. Grow and be ready, and you will see, God will give you a love story far better than what you've been planning".

Several verses in the Holy Bible will prove that God's time is always perfect. That it's His will that prevails in the end and not ours. One of the most profound verses that gives credence to this truth is found in Proverbs 19:21: "Many are the plans in a person's heart but it is the Lord's purpose that will prevail".

This incredible verse has totally changed my perception in life and my views towards destiny. Indeed, God has His own magical way of revealing His master plan to us. It might be hard to understand but we just have to trust His purpose. It will bring us to a destination far better than what we have planned. We only need a  more developed wisdom to understand it better.

I've been posting entries about "the purpose of waiting" for like a hundred times in my blog. "Waiting" has been part of  my blabbing almost every month. Until, lately I became extremey tired.

Oh, "Waiting". 

It might just be a simple word, but to people who have been endlessly waiting for something terrific to happen in their lives, this word means disappointment and rejection. 

But why God allow us to wait? 

This is the same question I have been asking for the past 10 years of my life. Why I need to wait longer than others. Why a certain thing I've been wished for could not just be given to me. Why others easily get what they want while I have to wait, for like, uhmm eternity.

All my life I feel like I am endlessly waiting for something that might never happen at all. Waiting for a great opportunity to land in my doorsteps, waiting for a beautiful moment to come, waiting for someone to sweep off my feet.

Until waiting became a painful ordeal that I need to endure everyday. It thoroughly became the most incomprehensible word I ever found in the dictionary. 

But I could not just simply allow myself to be ruined with self-defeating thoughts just because I have to wait longer, just because all my plans did not happen according to the time table I set, just because the person I love to be with, overlooked me. 

Perhaps, I need to change my views. I must learn to be circusmpect. And do something to counteract the exhausting effect of waiting. That's when I realized the need of going back to myself, to re-evaluate my life's purpose, ponder on God's message, recognize my self-worth and allow my subconcious to process the value of waiting.

I have realized that the answers to what was bothering me can be found only within myself, deep down to my subconscious and not in my environment, not even in a place nor people. It is just within myself.

But how to fully understand the art of waiting without breaking into pressure?

There's one at least beautiful lesson I learned from Rissa Singson-Kawpeng, Editor-in-Chief of Kerygma magazine. One of the topics she wrote in her book, “Confessions of an Impatient Bride” (she too had to wait longer before she met her husband) was about the value of waiting where she compared it to the attitude of the potters in Japan:

"In Japan, potters carefully molded the clay and waited long to release the bubbles before they would put it in the molding jar..."

Rissa concluded the story with...

"God has a purpose for our waiting. He's actually allowing us to mature and grow stronger to handle the complexities in life. He allows us to develop and evolve emotionally so that when it's time for us to make a big decision, we won't crack under pressure". 

Everything that happens in this world happens at the time God chooses (Ecclesiastes 3:1-11)

"Where we are is where God wants us to be. No "ifs", no "buts". If we believe that there are no ifs in God's world, then we can rest assured that where we are right now and how we got here is where God exactly wants us to be"

For I know well the plans I have in mind for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare, not for woe! Plans to give you a future full of hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)

"When God doesn't reveal His plans clearly, maybe He is teaching us something better than clarity". And that's why God allow us to wait. He just wants us to grow into a better and mature person and get rid off our insecurities. He just wants to protect us from going down the pit of abusive and painful relationship. He does not want us to end up defeated.

This message of waiting is the reason why I stop moping towards my destiny. I just let things flow and enjoy life as it happens. I know something great is just waiting me out there. I know God prepares someone better than those jerks I encountered along the way. I will just have to trust His plan fully for it is better than mine. 

I have also learned the fact that we should not fall in love with just the idea of being in love, we will just drown with its complexities. True love waits, so they say. In fact, there is no such thing as falling in love, it is only an idiomatic expression. 

A strong relationship is not just built in love, it is built around trust , loyalty, devotion and respect. A kind of relationship where it feels like home. A kind of relationship where the two of you feel so loved, respected, nurtured, trusted and comforted.

I believe that people should get themselves involve in a relationship because it is under the right circumstances with the right person and for the best reason. We will choose that person not because we are madly in love but because that person shared our values who happens to be at the right place at the right time.

So how do we know that it is love? 

There's at least some truth about the tale of Cinderella. It's love when the shoe fits perfectly. It's love when everything is so right, comforting and magnificent. It's love when the tiny details of that person's life insignificant to others seem fascinating to you. It's love when you can feel like home with that person.

So wait for that special moment to come. It is part of God's plan. He allows us to wait so that when He reveals His special gift, we are mentally, emotionally and psychologically ready and mature enough to handle a relationship and strong enough to wind off challenges.

Waiting, therefore, is a gift, a form of wisdom, a beautiful process of preparing ourselves to be more secured and confident. A process where God allow us to be self-assured, emotionally mature to handle life's complexities so that we won't crack under pressure. 

Waiting is a blessing from God. He allows everything to happen because it is the right thing.  Therefore, we should not worry if it takes time. For God's time is always perfect. Best things in life are always worth the wait.

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